Never assume that taking a blog break is going to solve your problems.
Never post something at 5:00 a.m. that you’re going to regret at sunrise.
And never—and I do mean never—write a great big bummer of a blog post on the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. Talk about a buzz kill.
There is a scene in The Lord of the Rings where Pippin grabs the palantír. He takes it from Gandolf (knowing full well that he shouldn’t) because he listens to his heart and not his head.
Of course, he suffers the consequences. “Fool of a Took!” Gandolf shouts at him, and once again comes to the rescue.
Well.
I am a lot like Peregrin Took. I am hasty, rash, and quick to go after what looks right to me, even if I have been consoled against it. I am, my friend, a fool of a Took.
Tell me that you love me anyway.
Tell me you’ll be my Gandolf.
Things are still uncertain on this end. My world is still upside down and the blood, still rushing to my anxious head. Still. My husband advised me—and this, three weeks ago—that a blog break wouldn’t solve our problems.
(Note that I announced one anyway.)
If you offered up a prayer for us yesterday, thank you. Keep them coming! I know what I’m going to do now regarding the sacrament of my marriage. I know what I need to do.
Meanwhile, I am going to keep loving and hoping and trusting and blogging.
I do these things…because I have to. ☺
Ever the hastiest Took of them all,
Praying for you.
Who of us isn't hasty? I will admit, that even I can be a Fool of a Took a time or two as well.
Rest assured, we "know" you (I know, how hasty for me to assume such a thing), or we know you here. You come across loud and clear every time you write. And dear, we love you for it.
I do chuckle when others commit to 'breaks' in blogging. I feel that I couldn't ever do that (and really, would anyone miss me any way??ha). Instead, if times are rough and I care not to blog in real time, I fade away instead. I just don't post. That way, it just looks like I'm busy or something…well, because I am busy after all…probably just lamenting something and stewing over more than there is to stew about!! (how do you like that honesty?)
I'm sorry to hear that uncertainty is in your midst. And yes, at such a time as this, probably even more pressing.
Whether you are listening to your heart or your head, fool or not, we rush here any way with every new post of yours that comes up in our Google Reader, because you are human. And you are not afraid to show it.
But alas, we sure love you any way!
Praying for you and loving you for who you are (a wonderful person in my book).
Praying for you, your husband and your family. Offering you and yours a daily sacrifice.
Dude, I will still be your Gandalf. No problem.
And of course I will keep praying. Also no problem.
I'll miss you because I love your sense of humor, but I'll be praying.
A suggestion (maybe this is what your were thinking on your last post): Sometimes breaking from blogging and reading other's blogs for three weeks is helpful. "They say" it takes three weeks to form a new habit.
This is very fixable with your Faith, your priest, and your love… Just pray, pray, pray, hold your tongue, and be sweet and kind no matter what. I'll pray, too.
God knows what you need so I'll keep applying to Him for exactly that.
My dear, I am very much a Treebeard, myself. Not being hasty enough has gotten me into trouble as well. May God give us both the perfect balance and perfect calm.
Have a blessed Thanksgiving.
Just a suggestion from someone whose husband suffers from depression….does the season have anything to do with it? I know it's always there, but sometimes, like when it rains for 3 days straight and there's no sunshine, well…it can make anyone want to cry all the time.
sometimes that darn depression sneaks up on people and messes with marriages, and a ton of things!
Maybe that's not it, just be assured of my prayers. And a listening ear. Need a break? Come north and visit anytime!
Love to you!
Margaret,
Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. I also enjoy your blog, your humor and your observations.
With prayers and love,
Gail
I'll be praying for you.
My hubbie would say the same regarding a blog break, so I'm committed to never taking one!! If I don't post for a few days, well, I guess I have other needs to attend to at home and in real life.
You're not too foolish to admit your mistakes and own up.
You've had a lot of changes within the last year … new baby, oldest in brick & mortar school … those are bound to affect relationships. While my changes aren't the same, I can relate. At some point harvest will be done and hubby and I will have to actually have a 'real' conversation about more than crops, discipline, and immediate needs.
Prayers to you and yours, Margaret. Wish I could give you an 'in person' hug. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
Oh what a Fool of a Took I have been as well, dear Margaret.
There was a time in my own marriage (ahem..like the last couple of years) when I wasn't living in my sacremental marriage. It took my confessor/friend to point this out to me. I was busy in life; having our kids, nursing them, home schooling them, taking them here and there. Then being involved with this co-op and another, CCD classes (as a teacher) my little sacrifice for the church I thought. So involved everywhere that my husband, our marriage began to suffer. It came so fast that I didn't even realize it. We have always been close and honest…I didn't see his hurt. He felt pushed aside.
So Fr. * had me find the "reason" to our love. The basic down deep emotional-spritual "reason" for our love.
It was and always had been God. God centered in our marriage. God brought me my husband because together we love God better.
I took the summer to focus on us again. And he returned the focus. He does for me so that I can do for him…so that we can be in a co-mission for God's will.
I will pray so very hard for you and yours. For that God centered LOVE in the middle of your marriage, for your intentions here for the "break" and for all the LOVE God has in store for you to have and give.
God bless you!
Elizabeth C.
CA
Praying for you, Margaret! happy Thanksgiving! {{{HUGS}}}
Hey Margaret,
I'm with Shawna. Daily sacrifices for you and yours, and you are always, always in our prayers.
God's blessings,
Saying a prayer for you, Margaret. Right now. Have a very blessed Thanksgiving with your family! And lean on the Lord; He will provide.
Welcome to the company of Fools. Sorry it's a bit crowded here. Just remember, in many cultures we are considered holy.
I have prayed for you and your family and will gladly do so again, although you don't know me from a piece of chalk. Perhaps knowing prayers are coming for you from the ends of the earth will be nice for you.
You and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers. Having had various rocky times during our marriage where it was by sheer will (and the grace of God) that we stayed together, I know. Love to you, Maggie.
From one "fool of a took" to another…I am praying for you: Mass, communion, my prayers get distracted but you are in them. I am rash and busy and always juggling just one too many things…so I get it. But I also know that you two are each others best hope and help for salvation. Marriage is cool that way. All will be well…and prayers will continue.
Prayers coming your way from NH. We've had a similar summer and fall. I feel it's the call of Our Lord to "go deeper" into our Sacrament and into our love for each other and for Him. God bless.
Hmmm Hommmm….
Treebeard would advise taking the LOOOOOONG VIEW…
and doing just what you are doing.
New babies also throw wrenches into well oiled machines, you know.
God Bless and prayers going out to you all. Remember…Not all those who wander are lost…
Pax Christi
Thanks so much for taking a little break from your *break* so I can say, "I miss you!" but I totally understand the need to focus on your Beloved!
Prayers for your and your whole family!
Sincerely,
Donna