Do you love your husband?
Then love your husband.
Love your husband the way he needs to be loved.
I was at Walmart this morning picking up 4 40-lb bags of water softener salt. (Totally romantic, right?! True love means doing the heavy lifting yourself sometimes.) There were heart-covered vases, heart-bearing teddy bears, and enormous heart-shaped boxes of candy. My personal “favorite” was the box of candy that was emblazoned with a cartoon bikini-ed torso. I wondered, was that for the guy to give to his girl? Or vice-verse?
I thought about Pilate’s “What is truth?” only I changed the words to “What is love?”
Because frankly, at Walmart, it seems a bit tawdry.
I can tell you what my husband thinks love is, and the odds are good your husband agrees.
In other words, how’s your sex life?
I’ll guarantee you, it’s not what the stores would have you think it should be. It’s not a “tit for tat” (slight pun intended); it’s not a “he gives me this; I’ll give him that.”
Marital intimacy is more–much more–that just one day in February.
I’ve been married for 21 years. We’ve had highs and lows and even lower lows; we’ve had laughter, joy, and eleven kids total. Can I speak to you honestly? From the heart and from my experience? The more I give myself to him in the way that he truly needs it…and we’re talking at least bi-weekly, maybe more…
(periods of abstinence being an exception, of course…)
The happier I am, and the better off we are. Ultimately both of our needs get met because as a man, he’s built up. As a result, he goes to bat for me in the ways that I need as a wife and a mom.
I love that he goes to bat for me because being a mom is not at all easy.
Just be careful, is what I’m saying, about turning “love” into a heart-shaped emotion. Love is so much more than that!
Love is self-giving and love is life-giving.
Love is first an act of the will…and after that comes flowers and chocolate.♥