Today is my father George’s birthday. Will you pause and say a Hail Mary for him?
Also? If you’re not Catholic, you don’t have to say a Hail Mary.☺ I just chose that prayer because of its ending line: Pray for us now and at the hour of our death.
My dad and mom are 89.
And really, none of us know the day or the hour that God will call us from this world. When I think about who I used to be…and what I put my parents through…
Yikes! I’m humbled, really. I have such gunk in my past life.
(I’m convinced my parents prayed me through.)
Now it’s my turn to pray them through. My mother, especially, doesn’t have much memory left. At least, I don’t think she does; she is very quiet and I can only guess what’s in her heart. On the outside, we see a very small and feeble woman who has to cling to my father when they go out.
My dad’s a go-getter. It’s so hard for him to see his beloved wife like this.
Last night I dreamt that I was back home with my parents. I was standing at the sink doing dishes with Jessica, but what I wanted to do was go smoke some pot. [Insert reference to past life here] In the dream, my brother had some in his bedroom; I went and got it, then forgot it was in my hand as I stood talking to my parents. [Insert reference to current Mom Brain here]
Wow. Talk about the stuff in my subconscious!
Jessica would not have approved.
Anyway, clearly I’ve changed a bit since then. Clearly I’ve grown up…a bit! And yet, sometimes I am tempted to point a finger for all the obnoxious mistakes I made. I am tempted to say, “Well, if my parents had been more ‘this’ or more ‘that’…”
That’s just crazy. We are all of us sinners. We have all made mistakes.
It is better to move forward in faith and with hope, and to realize that we have the power to change who we were. We have the grace that we need to heal and grow: grace for our families, grace to intercede.
“Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” (Luke 6:38)