See this couch?
This couch is my new normal.
Sitting on it, lying on it, splayed with a book and not-going-NOWHERE on it…that is the stuff and nothin’ of my days, it seems, at least until we—meaning Baby and I—work our way through this first trimester.
And I am using the word “work” in the loosest possible sense.
It’s hard, this not having energy thing. You can chirpily tell your family that “Mommy’s making a baby!” all you want, but at the end of the day, that little voice is still there to taunt you: Lazy lunk…lazy lunk…Mommy is a lazy lunk.
Go away, mean voice.
My husband, too, is part of the new normal. Having him here 24/7 has been a huge blessing for me and (dare I say it?) a mildish curse for him. Cheer up, Honey! These hormones are bound to settle down soon! (He’s thinking, “Right. I’ve been waiting for that for 15 years…”) What’s funny is this: the less energy I have, the more he seems to muster. Do you think God planned it that way? Yesterday he was changing the oil in the van which I would have done myself, honest, if he could have brought the van over to the couch, and needed to run to the auto shop for a couple things. “Hey!” I asked, looking up from my Lazy Lunkdom, “Could you stop by the grocer’s on the way home? For this and this and maybe this?” And then, when he needed to swing by WalMart a little later…”Hey! Could you also get a box of this and a roll of that?”
Thus spaketh the beached momma from the couch.
And thus helpeth outeth the best husband ever.
Here’s the good news: Only two more weeks to go until that Promised Land of the Second Trimester is here. Hooray! I am hopeful that I’ll be able to peel myself off the couch at that time, and I am thankful, so thankful, that your prayers have seen us to this point. I mean it—thank you.
In the words of our resident 3-year-old, “You the best friends ezah.”
prayers for your joyful rest during this blessed time of baby making.
Thank you, Lena! It was good to talk with you this morning and I'll be praying for your discernment.
I'm so glad the second trimester is in sight! Praying for you, dear Margaret.
With my last baby, I was so sick also. I feel your pain.
My husband dragged me, with 4 kids, out to CO for a 2 week vacation.
While in my first trimester, I was going across NE with no A/C in 90 degree heat. Almost died.
Hang in there. While on the couch touch baby belly for me! You are so lucky to be having a baby!!!! and blessed!!
I'm a first time Minnesota mom and our little surprise from God is due December 31st. It is such a joy following you Maggie! I am finishing my Masters thesis and have a hard enough time getting out of bed for that, much less having a family to look after! God bless you in this time!
You mentioned you have a great pro-life doctor? Can I ask what clinic you go to?
Email me, Kathy, and we can talk: mom4life[at]comcast[dot]net.
PS. Congratulations!!!
Margaret, may I email you privately as well for that info? I love this blog post! I get very sick when I'm pregnant, too.
Bridget
Yes Bridget, you may. 🙂
My neighbor, an RN, once told me, if you can do it sitting, sit, better yet, if you can do it lying down, lie down. Do it (everything you can) lying down, honey. Soon enough you won't be able to.
(Consider it a favor to your insides — they are tired too.)
I have heard the sniffing lemon/orange peels help the nausea. Sending sympathy from Canada eh!
by sniffing I mean holding'em to yer nose and smelling, not sniffing into the nasel cavities…..;p
I've been reading your blog for a long time now, and I was so happy to hear that you are expecting again, and that you are feeling so "blah" because that's a great sign for a healthy pregnancy. Last week I found out (on my 42nd birthday) that we are expecting #6. A total surprise!! I don't have any pregnancy symptoms whatsoever yet, so I'm just praying that all is ok. Anyway, rest while you can, and your couch looks like a very comfy one to do it on. 🙂
Congratulations! You are so blessed to be a Mama! Whats the secret to be able to concieve in your forties? I am 45, almost 46, and we will be celebrating our 5th anniversary on June 16! We tried, but have never been able to concieve.
You just put your feet up and keep making that baby! And yes, you are so lucky to have hubby there for you, ya lazy lunk! 🙂
Blessings,
Joolz
I got sicker with each pregnancy and my last one (6th)I was on the couch just about all 9 months but you know it's funny how it's all wiped away when we look at our baby's face for the first time. God bless you and your family Margaret. I love reading your blog.
OH! I'm 9.5 weeks with my first and have been feeling sorry for my lazy behind all day that I've laid in bed. It's great to know it's normal, but also to know that others are there too. Misery loves company, I guess. 😉 Thanks for your blog, I'll be following for sure!
Oh Margaret…sorry you're feeling so crummy. No matter how much you "offer up" or know that you're blessed, you just still feel awful, don't you? Prayers that you'll round the corner soon, and that you'll no longer have a horizontal view of your life.
Hi Margaret! I'm just catching up on your blog today. I can relate to what you are going through. I have a torn meniscus. So, I haven't been able to do much either. It stinks. I will have to plan my days out very carefully this summer. Can't go up and down steps too well. So glad you only have 2 more weeks till your second trimester! That is wonderful! Praying for you.
Catching up too. Congratulations! I had my last baby when I was 43. I have never, ever, been so tired as I was during that pregnancy and spent the majority of the nine months resting or napping. The nausea wore off as it typically did for me after the first trimester, but I was old-lady tired and could half believe the OB who put me in high risk category because of my "advanced maternal age." I was nevertheless very grateful for this last child (now 5). I was fortunate to have a very capable 16yo daughter to handle her siblings and step into my shoes everyplace else. God bless you and give you plenty of help.